Episode 43. “Stay silent, stay still.” Have you ever unconsciously followed that command? I know I have. Today I have the pleasure of talking with Racheal Rickabaugh where we dive into learning and un-learning and her journey of regaining the sense that her body, and her intuition, could in fact be trusted.

Racheal is a 33 year old second grade teacher from Grand Haven, Michigan.  She is passionate about supporting her students’ social/emotional development and fostering a mindset for learning in her classroom. She enjoys walks along the pier, board games, listening to podcasts, reading, and spending time with her friends.  Racheal enjoys writing.  Currently, she does it mostly for herself but has blogged a bit and hopes to have a more public platform one day. Check out her blog on her eating disorder journey here.

Today Racheal shares about her journey with her relationship with food and her body. Racheal is one of my early blog and podcast listeners/readers and has been such a wonderful part of the Psychology of Wellness community. She was one of our Founding Members of the Body Respect Program, our online program. What I have so appreciated about Racheal is her inquisitive nature, her deep desire to understand her body, openness to learning, and wanting to look at things truly holistically. She has the BEST questions. Many times when I’m asking questions to guests on the podcast or various settings, Racheal is the voice behind them! I’m so excited to dive in today and have her share more about her journey.

In this interview, we cover:

  • Racheal’s early relationship with food and her body and how being biracial growing up in predominantly white West Michigan impacted her identity and sense of self
  • Her progress with weight loss and flexible habit change (and the impact of people’s comments and being asked to share this publicly online) and when it turned into an eating disorder
  • Here extreme skepticism at first with Health at Every Size and Intuitive Eating (e.g., “I thought they were BS”) and what eventually changed her mind
  • How she has used science and research to really empower herself and achieve a more wholistic and flexible view of health than ever before
  • What she wants providers and people to know about making comments about weight loss

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Do you ever worry that you are wasting your life?

I definitely did. In fact, I wrote that in my journal many years ago when I was in the middle of the diet-binge roller coaster ride.

  • I woke up every day thinking about food, my body, and what I would eat that day to “be healthy”
  • The notebooks I had filled with calories and points could fill up a spare bedroom
  • Social events and vacations immediately prompted the thought “they will notice I gained weight” or “I need to lose weight by then”
  • Deep down I knew I wasn’t living life the way I wanted to, but I didn’t know how to pull myself out of it.

If this is you, I want you to imagine what it would feel like to feel empowered in your body and proud of your choices on a consistent basis. I promise you, it isn’t too late.

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Take Home Messages From Racheal’s Story

  1. There is nothing wrong with your body, it’s society that is the problem. This takes time and patience to truly understand the truth here. But as Racheal shares, doing the work here is very much worth it.
  2. When body diversity (age, sex, race, sexual orientation, etc) isn’t represented, we are sending a message psychologically and biologically to people that they aren’t safe and they don’t belong. This causes a stress response in their body, and is something that we often aren’t considering when we think of movements towards more social inclusion. Yet, it’s essential we do so.
  3. Most people think Intuitive Eating and Health at Every Size is BS at first. Seriously, I think that’s pretty much the most common reaction. And yet, I’ve never heard anyone who has really dug into the science and learned about it thoroughly be able to poke many holes in it. If you can’t, let’s chat!
  4. Science and research can be incredibly empowering. Racheal is inherently curious and though skeptical, she remains open to new ways of thinking and being.
  5. Doing the work, courage, and vulnerability wins. I don’t know Racheal super well. I know her mostly through email, a few Zoom calls, and this interview. But I’m struck by the fact that she does not give up, she is always working to improve upon her health from a learning mindset, and she hasn’t avoided things that are and were uncomfortable to her. Even sharing her story, of course there was some anxiety there, as well as excitement, but she shared with me after the interview that doing so is something she feels called to do. She has this incredibly combination of learning and then incorporating that learning into her intuition about what will work for her, and I think this is an incredible skill that she will use in all areas of her life, for the rest of her life. I think it’s what more people need, particularly women. Is to learn that we don’t need to “Stay silent, stay still.” And in fact, the world depends on us to un-learn that message.

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